Wow, I never equated shame with the desire to make oneself acceptable to others, but it’s true, the act of becoming what we’re not is based on the shame of who we are. Amazing insight, thank you!
Thank you for naming something I see over and over — in my clients, in people close to me, and in myself. Shame and self worth are so intertwined that most people don't even recognise the shame anymore. It just feels like reality. I never personally struggled with needing to cover shame — but I know too many people who do, and this piece gives language to something most of them have never been able to say out loud. I hope this reaches the people who need it most.
“Shame turns effort into compensation” whoa. 😮💨. You effortlessly weaved the connection between shame, performance, and how it carries out in persona. This made me think , when you identify things that contribute to your shame, you can then accept that, therefore become more self accepting and the more self accepting you become, the smaller the threshold for shame to exist. Such a good read! 👏🏾✨
I especially loved your observation that understanding the roots of shame can lead to greater self-acceptance. There is something hopeful in that. Not because shame suddenly disappears, but because it slowly stops defining who we believe we are.
Your comment added another layer to the piece, and I’m grateful you shared it…
Wow, I never equated shame with the desire to make oneself acceptable to others, but it’s true, the act of becoming what we’re not is based on the shame of who we are. Amazing insight, thank you!
Thank you, Aaron.
What struck me in your comment is the phrase “becoming what we’re not.”
And once that feels true, self-improvement can quietly become self-correction rather than growth.
I’m glad the piece resonated with you, and I appreciate you taking the time to reflect on it so thoughtfully…
Thank you for naming something I see over and over — in my clients, in people close to me, and in myself. Shame and self worth are so intertwined that most people don't even recognise the shame anymore. It just feels like reality. I never personally struggled with needing to cover shame — but I know too many people who do, and this piece gives language to something most of them have never been able to say out loud. I hope this reaches the people who need it most.
Thank you — this is so beautifully written, and it means a great deal to me.
What you wrote about the piece possibly reaching the people who need it most ... and it has touched me very deeply.
I don’t quite know how to answer that properly, except to say that I’m truly moved and very grateful....
I am so happy to read this. This platform should do exactly this to help and uplift each other, xx
“Shame turns effort into compensation” whoa. 😮💨. You effortlessly weaved the connection between shame, performance, and how it carries out in persona. This made me think , when you identify things that contribute to your shame, you can then accept that, therefore become more self accepting and the more self accepting you become, the smaller the threshold for shame to exist. Such a good read! 👏🏾✨
Thank you for this, Amielle.
I especially loved your observation that understanding the roots of shame can lead to greater self-acceptance. There is something hopeful in that. Not because shame suddenly disappears, but because it slowly stops defining who we believe we are.
Your comment added another layer to the piece, and I’m grateful you shared it…